Monday, July 31, 2006

Chivalry... lost forever?

I was in Coffee Bean this afternoon (study leave as usual), and there was this couple standing in the queue in front of me. They were ordering something... or rather, the LADY was ordering. And the man with her was just standing behind her, checking that what he wanted was ordered correctly. WHAT IS THAT?? Arrrghh...

Similarly, as soon as I was seated and enjoying my cappuccino, a young couple in their 20's walked in... but it was the very attractive girl that walked towards the counter, while the guy walked outside to get a seat. Then her guy friend popped his pretty little head in, and told the girl to order him the ice-blended mocha... WHAT IS THAT??

Even at work, whenever we got into an elevator, whenever the elevator door opens, it's usually the GIRL who holds the door open. WHAT IS THAT??

When did we girls start doing the bidding for our male counterparts? Where did the days of gentlemanly behaviour go? What happened to opening doors and laying down your coats so that our pretty shoes don't get wet?

Ok ok... Maybe we no longer require those levels of chivalry. I mean, what kind of times we are living in right now, right? And with feminist fighting for equality and all, we should no longer expect such 'special treatment'.

But is chivalry really dead? Should men really forget about doing these little things for us just because we want equality? Or is it us? We actually volunteer to take over these tasks. We offer to pay... we offer to drive ourselves... we willingly take it upon ourselves to do all these things ourselves. Is it to make a point to show that we can be independent? Maybe we did bring it upon ourselves.

7 Comments:

At 01 August, 2006 11:30, Blogger Unknown said...

Aren't you supposed to be studying numbers instead of couples?

Anyway, chivalry is not dead, it's just gone (into hiding).

 
At 02 August, 2006 11:38, Blogger Jo said...

Here's something to get you even more riled up:

It's you women's fault for putting up with it.

 
At 02 August, 2006 13:39, Blogger Sum said...

Grrr... Haha...
But I agree. We do put up with it. To show independence or what naught, somehow we feel 'obliged' to, just to prove a point. In the end, we are the ones who 'suffer' the consequences. We don't get perfect equality, yet we have to continue with this charade until we do. And please, we will NEVER be equal anyway, not matter how long we fight for feminism. Either way, we are in a rut.

 
At 02 August, 2006 16:53, Blogger Unknown said...

Some men find feminists to be sexy, other men want to be the knights who'd rescue the damsel in distress. Supply and demand at work :D

 
At 02 August, 2006 17:03, Blogger Jo said...

You're only in a rut if you see it that way. I believe that women get exactly the guy they deserve at that point in time (and vice versa, of course). Make a stand for yourself and you won't get that kind of guy lah.

Unfortunately, the way things work right now, you'll end up with some too-nice guy you'll walk all over. Sucks, doesn't it. Good men (and women) are hard to find.

 
At 02 August, 2006 22:32, Blogger Sum said...

Hey! I think I'm the one who gets walked all over! Haha... Time to stand up for myself. And yes, good men are hard to find. ;)

 
At 03 August, 2006 11:08, Blogger Jo said...

So you be a good girl and go think about what kind of man you want in your life.

Then you come to Uncle Jo for advice on how to get that man.

Ok girl girl?

 

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