Whose fault is it anyway?

"When things go wrong, we shouldn't assign blame." That's what they always tell us. Be it in school, at work or in your personal life.

Well, maybe only in Utopia. In reality, blame is usually assigned subconsciously. It may not appear in the most obvious way of actually pointing the finger at someone and saying "It's her fault!! It's her fault!!". Admit it... we're all a little guilty of pointing the finger once in awhile. We may not say it out loud, but in our minds, we place the blame on someone... be it ourselves or somebody else.

This happened in one episode of Desperate Housewives. There was an outbreak of lice in Lynette's twins' school, and the headmaster told the mothers that they can't tell them who started the outbreak because they practiced a 'no-blame' policy. However, the twins were scratching their head rigorously and some mothers saw that. Automatically, the blame was placed on them... that they were the ones who started the outbreak. After that, they were disinvited from parties and outings, even though in actual fact, they were NOT the ones to blame.

So this 'no-blame' policy actually does not work. Because human nature is such that people are always looking for a scape-goat to take the fall. The more you hide the truth from people, the more curious people get. If they are not told the answer, they make conclusions on their own... be it the right or wrong ones. So isn't it better to just tell them the truth, and save someone else the 'pain & suffering' of being victimised for the wrong reasons?