Little white lies...
People tell lies for different reasons. Sometimes to protect themselves, sometimes to hide some horrible truth, sometimes to protect the ones they love, sometimes for national security (haha!)... and sometimes to protect the feelings of others.
The last one is the one I want to talk about. How we sometimes lie to protect others' feelings. We do it because the truth hurts. When the truth is too hard to hear and the person who's gonna be hearing it may be too weak to handle it, we tell lies. White lies...
white lie
n : (1) An unimportant lie (especially one told to be tactful or polite)
(2) An untruth told to spare feelings or from politeness
And it's true that truth hurts. But isn't it better to hear the truth than to hear some half-baked lie just to make reality less painful? At least if we know the truth, we know exactly what is wrong and maybe it can be fixed.
When white lies are told, sometimes you have to continue lying to keep up the 'story'. But many forget to follow through with their stories... which make the white lie useless since now the person whom the lie was told to does not know what is truth and what is lie. And believe me, it hurts more when the truth finally comes out.
posted by Sum @ 1:27 pm
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6 Comments:
Classic white lie:
"Baby you still look great even if you're 8 months pregnant now... "
Classic mistake:
"Hun, you look like you've got a water baloon on your tummy!"
Haha... well, that's a white lie I'd willing hear and believe! Especially if it's softened by "baby" & "hun"... :P
It depends on the situation I think. White lies can hurt, or protect. So, it's a very grey area whether telling a white lie is bad or good.
I guess you're both right. It depends on the situation. If it's harmless, and it makes the other person feel a little better about themselves, then it's ok. But it's about something important, and the truth makes all the difference, then we shouldn't lie. :) I was really trying to refer to relationships. When some things are not right, and you're trying to end the relationship, it's important to sort out what is actually wrong. So that there's no doubt. And guys should NEVER say, "maybe in the future, there might be a chance we could get back together... you never know.". Coz that will only give hope that was never really meant to be there. :)
Ok, with such a specific situation, you are right. It IS unfair for the guy to give you false hope.
Paper cannot wrap fire.
I think them boys must have not play with fire when they were young.
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